THE EQUATION

Here's my thought on the process or direction of love.

Being that I am a man that's the perspective I'm coming from, although I believe the principles apply across the board.

Love should follow a certain equation, and flow in a certain direction to be long lasting.  Not problem free, testing, and frustrating but enduring.

The equation: Spiritual-Mental-Emotional-Physical.

For most of us until we reach a level of consciousness we reverse this equation and get flawed, and negative results.

Usually the equation goes: Physical-Emotional-Mental-(very seldom does this direction add up to spiritual).

It is true that as men we have a physical attraction first, if this is true then you may ask how can the first equation work?

The answer lies in the level of consciousness that the individual has achieved.  Going beyond the anatomical, and chronological level of manhood, into the mental and ultimately spiritual manhood.

If an individual has reached a level of mental and spiritual growth and come into true manhood, he appreciates the physical beauty of a women, but recognizes her true essence.

So yes I see you, but beyond just your physical, I am aware of the I AM that is you and me.

This is the spiritual attraction that is triggered by the energy radiated, and just like sound vibrations on the inner ear we can hear you on a higher level.

A man on a higher level of consciousness sees with more than what his flawed eyes reveal. He becomes very curious to know if what his senses are telling him are true.

When the initial meet and greet has the right ingredients of consciousness, spirituality, respect, mixed with a dash of flirtatious teasing interest is peaked.

Obviously there is an amount of time that all this takes place during the courtship, after all you have to get to know one another and this is the key. Having a real courting period is a lost science.

A connection of this level is more stimulating mentally than anything the physical senses can identify.

The danger of going physical first, is that the mind will manipulate what you feel physically and convince the you that this is an emotional connection. Mainly because the other persons actions are filling a void and serving some purpose for the moment.

Have you ever noticed that after you start a physical relationship and you fill that void, the lack of attention feeling dissipates, and you're no longer satisfied but are longing for "A MORE AND DEEPER CONNECTION"?  Yeah we've all been there, the now what phase.

See when we go spiritual first there is a deeper connection that transcends the physical stimuli. A mental coitus of two entities coming together on a sub atomic level creating a fusion that's on the Genesis level.

The emotions that are formed in this equation cannot be manipulated by the ego, because truth is in it. We know two things cannot occupy the same space at the same time. So when truth is present falsehood must flee.

And at some point there will be a physical coming together of these two like minds, and because of the main ingredients this will be the icing on the cake.

When you use this equation and have a true connection on the most high level, any and all obstacle can be overcome.

I have personally tried the physical first method and let me tell you it can be fun thrilling and even satisfying for a moment. But when you truly desire an honest love affair with someone you want to go spiritual first.

I have and it is blessing filled daily, full of fun and favor.

There's nothing like being able to be your authentic self and be accepted by that one. And when both are being authentic and transparent oh boy.

Thanks for letting me share.